Claire Waller

  • GippsGirl replied to the topic DIY soapbox in the forum Podium 6 years, 10 months ago

    Fine with me, Sandra. Do you want to provide bank details for a transfer (by way of PM) or would you prefer a cheque?

  • Squidge posted an update 6 years, 10 months ago

    Anyone else a bit on the warm side?! *melting*

  • Squidge posted an update 6 years, 10 months ago

    So I am no longer the mum of two children; I’m the mum of two adults (supposedly) as Squidgeling T was 18 last Saturday.

    Feels very strange. Empty nest syndrome beckons…but so do holidays out of term time, opportunities to reconnect with Mr Squidge (you don’t realise how much of your identity is tied up with your kids until they are doing…[Read more]

    • Aww. In my view they should have left the age of majority at 21. Especially since they all seem to stay on the payroll for far longer than that anyway…

      Anyway, congratulations on having two adults and enjoy some quality time with Mr Squidge.

    • Congratulations, Squidge. Enjoy your return to a more independent life!

    • It does change, Squidge. It can be a bit disorientating at first and sometimes a bit sad, but you’ll develop a new relationship with them which, even though it’s a totally different shape, completely fills the hole they leave behind. Odd that.

      • I’ve been somewhat strategic in helping my daughter to develop her independence. It was I who left home for trips away, leaving her to fend for herself (once she was working, I should add!). Good practice, I thought, for when she gets a place of her own – and she agreed. She has not long returned from her big first trip, spending three months in…[Read more]

    • It is a strange feeling, Squidge, which for me felt as though time had played a trick on me. It played stranger tricks when my granddaughter fledged, but suddenly you will wonder how you fit everything in. Athers is right, the holes are soon filled and the relationships blossom, or should I say metamorphose into something quite different and…[Read more]

      • Aw, thanks all. I know things do get easier – and become different – as we’re already on that road with our eldest. We’ll take it slow, and Mr S and I will no doubt talk about it all and fingers crossed we’ll find a new equilibrium soon.

    • All my nest-leavers are now in their forties(!!!) and yes, there’s huge benefit in re-discovering the bloke you remember from way back when, but also great to build new relationships with the emerging adults. All different. All totally rewarding.

  • Bringing a gun into a house changes it.

    Atoms shift and reconfigure to make space
    for this alien instrument
    and what it might wreak.

    It’s not the way, she pleads.
    Violence begets violence
    and can’t be undone.

    Pushed back by forceful hands,
    she quakes in the corner,
    bible clutched to heart.

    He sits rigid, jaw clenched, hairs on end,
    the wei…[Read more]

  • GippsGirl replied to the topic DIY soapbox in the forum Podium 6 years, 10 months ago

    Congrats, Sandra! A great accomplishment to get it in print after eight long years. Friends who know I write can’t understand why I’m still at it after five. I, too, would love a signed copy, and assume you reap more of the profit (!) if purchased direct rather than via Blurb? Could do a bank transfer.

    And a catch-up is definitely due! x

  • JaneShuff replied to the topic DIY soapbox in the forum Podium 6 years, 10 months ago

    Brilliant! Let me know about the P&P and I’ll send you a cheque. If it’s hideously expensive to send to France, I’ll get it sent to my sister, or one of the sons…

  • JaneShuff replied to the topic DIY soapbox in the forum Podium 6 years, 10 months ago

    Congratulations, Sandra! I was going to order a cpy but would love to have a signed one. Can I order one too? Let me know how much.

  • PS Bought myself a range of nit and head louse treatments and am doing a different one everyday plus washing everything I’ve been in contact with everyday. I can’t bear the thought of giving them to him…

    • Oh, bless you! All I can say is that from experience in school (we were lucky – yes, we had nits at times, but managed to get on top of them pretty quickly by just wet-combing with a nit comb) if they keep coming back, there’s a source somewhere that you’re coming into regular contact with. In our case, a girl in the class who…shall we say that…[Read more]

  • I am now at my Dad’s looking after him for a week. I am trying to write a bit and I do have the time but other things tend to crowd into my head. Mainly how happy I am to have this time with him while he still knows me and how lovely my OH is with him. I’m sitting here supposedly writing the villain revelation scene of my WIP but I can’t help…[Read more]

  • Athelstone replied to the topic DIY soapbox in the forum Podium 6 years, 10 months ago

    Oh well, it won’t be the same at York without you 🙁

  • Athelstone replied to the topic DIY soapbox in the forum Podium 6 years, 10 months ago

    Will you have copies at York? I definitely want it signed!

  • I interpret this directly as: don’t ever put yourself in the position where you might regret the things you didn’t do,
    which leads me indirectly to: don’t hold back from doing the things you could have done because you’re likely to regret it later.

    The word adventure didn’t spring to mind when I read your post (though I get what you mean).…[Read more]

  • Ah yes. The previous line makes all the difference. I think it works fine.

  • That’s what I got from it, John, but I did have to think.

  • Crossed with you, Jonathan.

  • At face value, John, to me it means the opposite. “Never regret not taking the adventurous decisions.”
    The things you didn’t do? Maybe they were missed opportunities, but maybe not. Maybe they were best left alone. It’s all water under the bridge now, so there’s no point in spending time and effort on regretting what might have been.

    To mean…[Read more]

  • I so need help! What can I buy in the UK to get rid of nits? Can anyone help? Anyone with school age children? I would like to say I was asking for a friend but I might be lying!

    • Something like Full Marks from Tesco medicine shelves (or any big supermarket or Chemist) or ask in a chemist for what they recommend. Or if you want to avoid chemicals, use a lot of conditioner (really – a lot) and work it in well. Leave for at least 15 minutes and comb out with a fine-tooth nit-comb (that you can also buy at a chemist)

      • Thanks Ath. What I need is chemicals! I have tried everything else. We are off to the UK to look after my dad for a week and I absolutely cannot give him head lice. They have just come back again and I cannot buy anything effective (with chemicals) unless I have a prescription.

        • We fought about 3 major battles when our kids were little. The proprietary treatments you can get in a chemist or supermarket worked then and I’m sure they will now. I seem to remember Lyclear is what we used. The lotions are a real pain to use, but I think the Lyclear shampoo was easier. Ordinary washing isn’t much use; apparently they actually…[Read more]

          • Sorry, I should have said, I cannot buy anything strong IN FRANCE without a prescription. I’ll be at the chemists first thing tomorrow morning then, whispering furtively over the counter.

            • Jane, I had so many battles with my kids, I was exasperated, specially as my girl had double-thickness hair. This doesn’t help to get rid (they must have moved on a time-or-three since I did battle), but I have heard that once they are gone, using a serum on the hair makes it more difficult for eggs to adhere to it. Never tried it out (no serum…[Read more]

      • My daughter is a hairdresser and has recommended going to a chemist for products that give best results and to diligently follow the instructions on the back of the bottle. We used a tea tree shampoo when she was a child, which was effective with one of the fine nit combs when the hair is wet (after shampoo).

        All bedding and clothing that has…[Read more]

        • Thanks both. They are tenacious b******s. This is the second time they have come back so your daughters recommendations are not falling on deaf ears, GippsGirl. I am on the ferry at the moment and will be first in the queue at the chemists tomorrow morning. Luckily my OH is fairly bald but I will be making him have a precautionary treatment as well.

  • Bringing a gun into a house changes it.

    It doesn’t matter that it’s locked away, out of sight. There’s something tangible – a weight, a tension – that comes with the knowledge of its presence, which terrifies me more than him.

    He explained the gun’s for protection.

    What extra protection could he need? He has his expression, his speech…his…[Read more]

  • GippsGirl replied to the topic Publishing deal!! in the forum Podium 6 years, 11 months ago

    What fantastic news! Congratulations, Kaz, and I read that you met your agent at a successful speed-dating pitch-event. That’s a great reminder to make sure we writers are best prepared for such meetings.

    I didn’t know of the Wheeler Centre. It looks like an amazing resource, and next time I’m home in Melbourne I’ll try to get along to an event there.

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